How to rebuild trust in your relationship.

If the trust has been broken in your relationship, trying to rebuild it can seem really daunting. Here’s how to do it:

·        Start small. Don’t expect that the level of trust that you once had will be rebuilt instantly. It takes time so start small and don’t expect too much from each other right away.

·        Forgive. If they were the ones who broke the trust, you need to forgive them. Even if you’re still angry or hurt, you need to work towards forgiving them if you ever hope to rebuild the trust. You’ll never be able to move forward if you’re holding onto the issue.

·        Apologize. If you were the one in the wrong and who broke the trust then you need to apologize, and make sure that your partner sees that you really mean it. Show them how truly sorry you are and how hard it is for you that the trust has been broken. If they can see how important rebuilding the trust is to you they will be more willing to try.

·        Don’t expect overnight change. The trust that you once had wasn’t created overnight, so don’t expect to get back there right away either. It’s going to take patience and time to get back to where you were.

·        Keep things light. When rebuilding trust in your relationship try to focus on low-pressure situations where you can just have fun together with few expectations. Don’t get into a lot of heavy talks or situations where there’s a lot on the line. Just keep it light and it’ll be easy to fall back into your old routines of relaxing and trusting each other.

·        Recreate the positives. Recreate a fun date that you once had or some good times you had when your trust and relationship were strong. The emotions connected to the memories will help remind you both of what you once had and will encourage you to get back there.

·        Do a project together. A great way to rebuild trust is to work on a project or a joint goal together. You’ll need to rely on each other and work together. You’ll feel great when you achieve your goal or complete your project and it will remind you of the great things that can happen when you lean on each other.