1. Trust people when they tell you that they love you. Whether it be an intimate relationship, a friendship, or a family relationship, it is important to take the declaration of love at face value. If you are pushing aside the gift of love because you are afraid the person does not mean it, then you prevent them from having the chance to prove that they do.
2. Stop fearing loss. A common reason for not being able to receive love is a prior experience of losing someone you loved. However, if you spend all your life pushing aside love on the off-chance that the person might withdraw it again, you will always feel cynical and unsure. Instead, embrace their love, and go with the flow, expecting those who offer love to stay around.
3. Love yourself. This might be the hardest step of all. However, if you don’t love yourself then receiving love is impossible - because you don’t believe that you deserve to be loved. If this is the case, start working on why you can’t love yourself. This might include seeking help to explore the issues behind the belief. Remember that every person is special - and that youdeserve to be loved.
4. Let love in and don’t block it. Being open and receptive to the love that others offer is something you can learn with practice, over time. Don’t let the urge to be cynical or tough take over. Instead, let down your defenses, and accept support from others.
5. Observe how children receive love. They accept what is said, and view receiving love as natural. Re-learn what was once was innate – and choose to trust again.
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