Deal Breakers

Every relationships has its highs and lows, it’s joys and its issues. It’s normal to expect some hiccups in our relationships, but these 6 things should be major deal breakers for any of us:

·        Lying. Lies, even small ones, should be a red flag that something isn’t right. Why does your partner feel the need to lie to you and what else are they lying about? If they will lie about one thing, what will stop them from lying about everything else? Since trust is a major foundation of any successful relationship, you should consider lying a deal breaker. If you can’t trust your partner, then why would you want to be with them?

·        Cheating. Even if it was only once, cheating is a deal breaker. What would stop them from doing it again, and how can you trust them once they’ve cheated? By cheating on you, your partner has shown a great deal of disrespect to both you and the relationship and shows that they don’t value the relationship enough to stay faithful to you.

·        Betrayal. Like lying and cheating, betrayal of any kind should not be taken lightly. If your partner has betrayed your trust or your confidence in any way, what will stop them from doing it in the future? You shouldn’t have to think twice before confiding in your partner and wonder if you can trust them.

·        Insulting you. Any type of verbal abuse from your partner should not be tolerated. If they insult you or put you down, it’s clear that they don’t respect or value you. And if that’s the case, they may also be likely to break your trust in other ways. Everyone deserves to be in a relationship where they are treated with kindness and respect.

·        You are the lowest priority. If your partner puts everything and everyone else before you, it should be a deal breaker. You don’t want to be their lowest priority. If you are invested in their relationship, you want to have a partner that is as well. You deserve attention and time from your partner, not to be at the bottom of their list.

·        Physical abuse. This is a major deal breaker. Not only are you placing yourself in danger by tolerating it, but also you’re confirming your partner’s disrespect for you. If your partner is physically abusive it’s clear that they have their own issues to work out that likely have nothing to do with you, and you shouldn’t wait to stick around while they do that.