How To Save A Relationship

If your relationship has been on a rocky road lately, you may be considering whether you want to work on it or end it. If you decide that you want to fight for it and save your relationship, here are some things to consider and tips for how to go about doing it:

·        Is it worth fighting for? Before you put the effort in to save your relationship, ask yourself if it’s really worth fighting for. Do you love each other? Is there something good worth saving, or do you have more issues than you can even name? Do you want the same things out of the relationship and in the future? Do you have the same values? Decide if it’s worth saving before you try to make it work.

·        Find the key issues. Look past the petty disagreements and fights and figure out what your main issues are. Do you need to communicate more? Value each other more? Find out what the major issues are and then you can work on fixing them.

·        Do you both want to save it? If one of you is over it, it’s never going to work. You both need to be invested in the relationship and want to make it work in order to stand a chance.

·        Work at it. Start chipping away at fixing your problems, little by little. It won’t come easy and it won’t be an overnight fix either, but if you start small and keep working at it, you’ll get there. There will be lots of times where you’ll feel frustrated but keep working on it and you’ll see results.

·        Give it time. Your relationship won’t be repaired after a day. Even if you’ve made good progress and had some success, you still need to be patient and give it time. People don’t change overnight and your relationship won’t either.

·        Ask for feedback. Communicate along the way and talk with your partner about how you each feel that it’s going. Talk about the progress that you’ve made and give each other feedback on what areas still need improvement. If there have been positive changes made be sure to tell each other and compliment each other on your success too.

·        Take the pressure off. Make sure you and your partner still do things together that are fun and casual. Don’t make every date about talking about the relationship and your problems. Take some of the pressure off by having fun together and spending time together in your favorite ways. You can’t expect to be working on the relationship at all times; you need time for fun and relaxation too.