Are you an introvert dating an extrovert? Or an extrovert with a shy and quiet boyfriend/girlfriend? Dating someone with an opposite personality can be smooth sailing with these 10 tips:
1. Understand them. Identify and understand what personality type they are in relation to yours. When you can understand them and what your differences are you will be more sympathetic and be able to relate to their needs better.
2. Don’t hide your true self. If you are outgoing and the life of the party, don’t try to tone it down or hide that from your quiet partner. They should like you for you and neither of you should have to pretend to be something that you aren’t in order to be together.
3. Learn from each other. One of the great things about dating someone different than you is that you can learn from them. Maybe you’ll learn how to be more outgoing or you could learn to appreciate the value of being quiet and listening.
4. Keep your own life going. If you’re an introvert who loves to have lots of quiet downtime by yourself, don’t stop doing that just because you’re dating someone who is a social butterfly. You won’t be able to sustain a lifestyle where you aren’t being true to yourself.
5. Don’t coddle them. If your partner is really shy and quiet don’t feel like you have to babysit them at parties and make sure they are having fun. Even if it’s outside of their comfort zone they should be able to have fun and hold their own.
6. Don’t do stuff that you aren’t comfortable doing. While it’s great to try new things and learn from each other, don’t feel pressured to do anything that you really aren’t comfortable with. Never put yourself in situations where your intuition tells you that you shouldn’t be just to please your partner.
7. Be yourself. Don’t put on an act and pretend to be an extrovert if you’re just not. Be yourself and they will appreciate you for who you really are. Putting on an act will get old fast and they’ll probably see through it anyway.
8. Don’t try to change them. You can change habits, but you can’t change someone’s personality. Don’t force them or try to make them into someone they aren’t, just for the sake of trying to be the same.
9. Give each other freedom. If your introverted partner likes to have quiet time alone, give them the space to do so. If your extroverted partner needs lots of time in big groups of people, let them go and do that. You’ll both be better people for being able to do your own thing.
10. Alternate your activities. Take turns choosing activities and dates that appeal to each of your personalities. Alternate between parties out with big groups of friends and quiet movie nights in. You’ll have a balance between your personalities and neither one of you will feel like you’re always outside of your comfort zone.
No comments:
Post a Comment